[MISC] Career and/or Relationship_Chelsea

Interracial Marble Relationship 3by  William J Serson licensed by creative commmons from Flickr

While we are looking for potential labs to work for during postdoc fellow period, I can't help but thinking of the similarity between "career" and "personal relationship".

1. Key:

Both are very essential parts of any human beings;

2. Uncertainties:

When you are going to move on, say graduating from school, or break up with your ex, you are facing the uncertainties of the future. Hope is not a strategy, but to the person clinging to it, hope feels very real. Hope doesn't help. You gotta go and find out who are there in the pool. You gotta to take on the risks of possibly "not suitable" "miserable" next period of time. 

However, stay in status quo doesn't help at all. It feels safe. But in long term is the worst strategy and would be the most regrettable one. 

The challenge is to embrace the uncertainty, and switch focus from the opportunities that have disappeared (as opposed to becoming obsessed with them) to the emerging opportunities: yeah, I am talking about labs, and also boyfriends. No wonder!

3. Get bored?!

You may be bored of one project for 5 years, but the same applies to relationships. No matter how sweet, cheerful, romantic, charismatic, magic, ... it was for the first few months, it will WIND DOWN. That's human nature. The more you get familiar with, the less surprised you feel, the more boring it looks like. 

That leads to the one million dollar-question: 

If so, how can I maintain, by myself, a certain level of "passion" disregard of the time? How can I "seduce" myself into the same stuff for a long long period of time, still feeling happy, certain level of freshness, passionate, and enjoyable? 

It applies to both career and relationship. Instead of moving on constantly (changing jobs, changing bf/gf/partners, which is damn waste of time), what's the best way to treat yourself naturally with free will, but still climbing to a certain level of maturation: self-motivation and constraint? 

4. Not only YOU...

It's people interaction enriched business. No matter how excellent you are, if you cannot deal with your boss/husband/bf/gf/wife, you gonna fail. One side can never row the boat. Then how to ally the other side, maintain an effective and sufficient engagement for mutual goals, that's another million dollar's question. You cannot change other people. So what would you do?

With all these random thoughts, let's keep on the writing exercise (as to help with your professional development). Similar analogy in relationship? Do the physical exercise and stay hot!!! 

Lol~

Chelsea